Monday, December 1, 2008

Do I Belong?

For the past two weeks, we have had in-law company from out of town. Now, more often than not, this might stir up many thoughts for you. Some good and some not so good. I was unsure of what this visit would be like for us. I am happy to say it was a great visit. It was during this visit while sitting around the table one night, we had a short and yet powerful discussion about church. While discussing church, we talked about the different levels and layers of belonging to each other. You will hear me discuss a lot about Joseph Myers books: ' The Search to Belong' and 'Organic Community.' We discussed the four ways people belong to each other as described in these books. The four levels of belonging are: Public, Social, Personal and Intimate.

An amazing revelation came from this time around the table. The revelation is this: There might be people who are regular attenders at our church -- quit possibly even members -- who actively participate in what is happening: They participate in ministry, in events that have been planned, in worship, and in other areas of the church. And yet, even though they participate in what is going on around them, they may not really feel like they belong to people or the church. They may not feel like they belong to anyone at all.

What do you think about this? Do you think it is possible for people to be that involved in church and not feel like they belong? What does belonging look like for you? What does it feel like? What is the one thing that you believe helps you 'belong'? What do you believe prevents you from experience any level of belonging? Is there an idea that you have or can throw out that would open our eyes to something new in this area?  

3 comments:

Cindi A. said...

Hello Chris, I followed Nicoles Blog over here. I really like what you have to say. I have been thinking a lot about the belonging to the Church blog you wrote about. This morning sitting in Sunday School this thought came to mind. Members and others of the Church will do most anything in the church in hopes of belonging. Maybe we just don't feel good enough or strong enough in our Christian faith to really belong. It isn't that the Church does anything or says anything to make you not feel like you belong. More my thoughts make me not feel like I belong. Just a thought.
If I shouldn't respond since I don't go to your Church just let me know and sorry.

The White's said...

Cindi,

I follow what your thinking. I think you are correct. However, I also think there is a part the church plays in helping people sense whether or not they belong or not. We can help facilitate and foster 'belonging' or we, just by doing nothing, can prevent this from happening.

The White's said...

And also, I think it is more than fine that you chimed into the blog. No problem whatsoever.